Resolutions for the new year
Why are they bound to fail before the new year even starts?
Because most people are trying to fix a symptom rather than a problem. Most new year’s resolutions are things like quitting smoking, losing weight, saving money, or working out at the gym. You can never fix a symptom, if you do it will just show up in a different way.
Let me use an example to explain…
The problem isn’t that you need to lose weight (you may disagree but read on) The problem is that something makes you feel hungry when you are not. That food makes you feel better when things aren’t going so well, that it gives you a pleasure that you aren’t getting elsewhere in your life.
That chocolate cake gives you something that you should be getting a different way. Maybe you are in a relationship that is in a rut or in a dead end job with no satisfaction. Worse, maybe someone around you is bringing you down, who doesn’t believe in you. Is it your partner, your boss, or even your family?
If you can solve the cause, the chances are the weight would fall off naturally. How many people know someone who got really slim right after a divorce or breakup? You can make all sorts of reasons why it happens but maybe it is because they solved the cause of their unhappiness and didn’t need to feed the problem.
Now, I am not suggesting that you leave your partner necessarily. The problem may be that communication is stopped, that you don’t even feel you know them anymore…then maybe the answer is to get reacquainted. To make a real resolution to discover what went missing.
New year’s resolutions detract from the real problem. The real problem is that there is something fundamentally wrong with something in your life.
Is there a forgotten dream? Have you given up the ideas and ideals of a younger you. Too many people have given up what they want because it seems too difficult. Make a resolution today to pursue that dream.
Maybe it is that you feel there is no time for what you want or other people have to come first.
As a life coach the one thing that is true of every client I work with, is that at the beginning they feel what they want is impossible to achieve. Later they cannot believe how far they have come. But even after they have done such great things, they find it hard to believe the next goal is possible.
I will always be puzzled how we can all forget what we are capable of. All you have to remember is how many times they said “it can’t be done” and were wrong.
“There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home.” — Ken Olson, president, chairman and founder of Digital Equipment Corp. (DEC), maker of big business mainframe computers, arguing against the PC in 1977. for more quotes from people who didn’t believe
That is why I am a life and business coach. To show people that it can be done. To believe in them when they can’t believe in themselves. It scares people to find out that they CAN and some are not ready for it. ARE YOU????
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